Sunday, July 31, 2005

This and that

So far this weekend I have had a bat in the house, been called into work on my day off, had one sick spawn, felt lazy, trimmed the bushes in the yard, went for walk while son roller bladed, cleaned (very little), and been hot.

I added a new feature, I am sure not all of you are going to like it..But I guess I can not please everyone:)

I have been thinking?..What makes a good friend?..Is it someone you talk to everyday?.Someone you tell everything too?..Maybe shop with, have girl talk. I am just wondering. The real friends I do have...Well thought I had.. I don't really hear much from..I mean a call every now and then.but...I have not had a friend make an effort to come here to see me since I moved. And I have been back 3 times sice I left..So am I wrong thinking it is their turn?..
I have this friend who I have been best buds with for like 17 years..She tells me she is gone call..And she don't..She says she is coming to see me..And she don't.. She tells me she is gonna get on her computer so we can chat..And she don't...If you have no intention on doing these things..DO NOT TELL ME YOU ARE GOING TOO!!...

You really get a sense of who your true friends are when you move away..So far I have none..LOL...

I know I complain about this feature of my life all the time..But it really bugs me..I have been doing my best to make friends here, but seems I am not good at making them..I try..I think I am trying anyway..

Do real friends have to be ones you know or meet with?..Because it seems the ones I don't even no personally are better friends than the ones I do know..

I have decided I am not wasting anymore time on friends that make no effort to stay in touch..If I call once and don't hear back..NO MORE CALLS FOR YOU.. If I take time out of my day to send you an email and I don't hear back within a weeks time..NO MORE MAIL FOR YOU!!...I am tired of being the one who puts all the effort into it..Being friends should not be that hard..Am I wrong..???

So what is the lesson today?..Christina isn't gonna waste anymore time on friends who don't waste time on me:)

For those of you who have true friends..You are lucky...Enjoy it..It may not last forever..So enjoy it while it lasts:)

Good day..
Toodles:)

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

Christine, all of my present friends are in the moms club or moms of Cassie's classmates...school starts soon so hang in there!

Anonymous said...

It can be really tough when you are the only one making the efforts. After awhile, it can be hard on the self-esteem. It's like we need them but not vice versa. Hang in there. You never know, once they start to not hear from you, this may get their attention. I also get depressed in my friends situation. I try to look at myself as much as possible to make sure that I am not the problem. But, I find that I do not get the same considerations or kindness that I try to give. I am too sensitive alot of the time--so I know that this can be a problem. I feel like life is an investment. When you put forth a certain amount of effort, you expect the same back. I'm not saying that love is conditional--I am also not talking about things, gifts, etc. It is more about the intangibles--time, kindness, being considerate. Well, I have gone on enough. Talk to you later. Take care. Hoping for NO bats tonight!!:)

eyes_only4him said...

Midwest Hick, yes they do come and go..it sucks..lol..way to go daughter..hope you can go to her game:)

SAndy,I am trying to hang in there..I have looked into clubs around here..but there relaly sint much..maybe i should start one:)

Marel..you totally get me..lol..
I am a very insecure gal..if I dont hear from someone I take it personlly..when it really could have nothing to do with me..Just in a funk right now..and I just wish I had friend to complain too..Oh well..Thanks for the words:)..and yes..NO BATS.. or I am headed to your place:)

Kristen said...

make friends with the old people at work. LOL. They will worship you and they love to hear complaining because it makes them feel better about their lives. I know this from personal experience. :-)

Me said...

My little sister has said the same thing about girls she grew up with. She moved away and they NEVER call. I haven't moved far enough away, but I don't hear from them nearly as much as I did before I got married. It does work both ways though...for me that is...I get so busy, I often forget to call or email. I'm still thinking about them though.

No worries...you have lots of blogger buddies that love ya to pieces honey :)

momma of 2 said...

I understand... I have no contact with people that were my friends in high school, I went to college, and made new friends, and so did they. Got married, and made the mistake so many do - I spent as much time as possible with hubby, and now those friends are gone too. Now, my friends are the ladies I work with at my part time job,(all of which are older than me by 15-20 years) or the volunteers from that job, and KB who moved north 2 hours about a year ago, but we make a point of calling each other almost every other day, and get together at least every other month. It's so hard to make friends when you move, and are an adult. I so understand.

eyes_only4him said...

thanks for all the understanding..i see many of you have went thru the same thing..
;)

yes jaws,good music isnt it??......lol

Robin said...

I know it's tough when friendship is not reciprocated. That's why it should not be taken for granted when you find a true friend. Eventually, I bet they will begin to miss your presence in their lives, and get their acts together. Keep your chin up! :-)

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