Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Never Tear us Apart

So, this here will be your last post of the week....

I like to keep u guys in the know...so, now u know.

So, I showed you my grand babies eggs last post. I am sorry to report that my eggs are missing. Something took my eggs. My eggs are no more. My nest is empty.

I definitely have an empty nest...

When I catch the predator who took my babies, I'm gonna choke em.


I have a couple things in common with my dad which would be

my grandma's nose

classic rock

emotionally distant

we hate talking on the phone.

we also share the same sort of humor that no one finds funny or amusing but us..

I can pretty much safely say I have not heard my dads voice since I was there in Dec.

Oh wait, I just remember I did talk to him when I was in Grand Rapids for my um..def leppard concert...fuck a duck

See, I do not call him because, well....I hate talking. I hate talking to people when I see them, I hate talking to people on the phone, I just hate talking.

My dad is the same, except I think he likes talking to people outside a phone line.

On my birthday, holidays he sends an email. If that damn Al Gore had not invited the internet...choke choke.....I would virtually not be sure if he was still alive.

I fear I am going to turn this way when my kids grow up. I mean they get on my every last nerve right now, and I look forward to the day when I don't have to tell Boo to leave the cat alone, or tell The Boy he does not have a mustcahe, or tell Blondie her bra is on backwards...

I look forward to the day I don't have to talk to them at all..unless I want to.

But I wonder, will I want to?

The minute those tots walk or run out the door, will I want to talk to them on a daily basis still? Or will I just like to have my peace and quite?

I think the quite would get too quite after a while. Wouldn't it?

Then when my kids have kids am I gonna be an overactive grandmother and spoil them like my mother does, or not send them shit but worthless savings bonds like the father in law does?

Will I just call once a week to talk to them like the mother in law, or just send them cards and gifts for birthdays like my dad does..with no call...cause we don't call?

I think about these things.

I mean, does everyone? Or am I the only loser?

Just wondering...cause I think about these things.......

Or my kids could just get up and leave and not tell me where they are going...no forwarding address or number....

Which would not surprise me none...cause ya no....That's how they might roll...

Then there is another issue I'm dealing with. The Hubs brother wants to take The Boy and Blondie for two weeks in the summer. And this is troubling me.

I do not want my kids in another state without me. Cause I am a bad mom that way. I mean what mom lets their young spawns out of state without them unless your selling them?

I just don't think its cool.

And to top it off, the hubs thinks they should go.

so this is causing fights.

I say if they want to see the kids so badly, they can come HERE for a visit and see them. Why should I send them there?

Sure most days I would like them to go far far away in a hot air balloon and just hover in the sky...not too far where I cant see them, but far enough to where I don't hear their voices.

They could hover in the backyard, in a balloon, and I will let them down for meals and showers..unless it rains, then the shower is covered...and no need to come down till the next meal time...

But most of all, I need to have them under my nose at all times because well, they are the only tots I have, and there isn't anyone I trust to take care of them but me.

Especially out of state...

So am I being totally unreasonable?

Doesn't matter what u say, because well...

they aren't going.


Tom said...

You're nuckin futs!! You have to cut the apron strings some time. At 5 or so, they should be making their own decisions.

Shannon said...

I totally agree with you, I would be a nervous wreck if mine left for two weeks like that to another state.

Flip Flop Momma said...

Oh geez Tom, ur makin me nervous.

I knew someone would have to agree with me...

1 plus twins said...

oh man my kids were supposed to go back to ohio with my parents for the entire summer. i was so looking forward to it. i would miss them and all but i wanted some selfish me and hubby adult time. but my parents backed out, i think your kids are old enough but only with people you trust and why does the bro in law only want two kids and not all three? only let them go if he takes all three.

Flip Flop Momma said...

why did they bakc out?...damn...sucks 4 u..haha

Southern Sage said...

Goddang FFM!!!!
My kids have full time jobs on Alaskan fishing boats at 5
why'd you have them if they can't help out??

1 plus twins said...

oh man cuz that is just some of my moms crap! that is a whole nother issue!! lol so i guess no adult alone time for me and hubby and 2 1/2 months of kids couped up with extreme heat. sounds like fun fun fun. lol

dakotablueeyes said...

I don't like talking on hte phone either

just_tammy said...

Yes, we know you are allergic to the phone. Just it ringing causes you to break out in hives. The real reason you don't want the kids to go to stay with their uncle is you would have to speak to them on the PHONE while they are gone so you'd know how things were going! It's no mystery...you are a hyper-phone-iac! Hmmm, maybe I should give you a call to test my theory...

Flip Flop Momma said...

well come get your boy and have him earn me a living then..

oh man, another mom that dishes out crap...i know lots like that..

what time shall I call u?

no need to test it...I think u nailed it..haha

So Not The Bradys said...

Pull up a chair and sit a while. I might get to the point I was going to make on understanding not letting the kids go even under good circumstances.

The in-laws live in NY. Long story, but it only took me about ten years to figure out they are nuttier than fruitcakes - and that's why my husband decided to join the Army and get the hell out of Dodge back in the day.

About the time I started to observe the nuttiness, his mom wanted my kids to get on a plane and go to NY for a few weeks. Nope, wasn't going to happen. (His mom would promise my kids things like a Gameboy for their birthday. Do you know how heartbreaking it is to have a six year old come home for six weeks after school asking if the mailman brought his package?)

There was no way in hell I was letting my kids go. They caused plenty of disappointment for my kids from 800 miles away. I sure wasn't going to let them out of my sight where I wasn't around to do damage control.

My kids are 17 and 15 now. I don't think I'd send them away for very long now. Yes, yes, I'll cut those apron strings one of these days. But for now, that hot air balloon idea could work.

JoeinVegas said...

Oh, come on, let them go. It will be good for all of you.

catscratch diva said...

I'd be nervous, but I'd kick 'em over to the in-laws.

Of course, this is me talking when my tots are not tots anymore, they are grown up.

If I had to do it over again, there asses would spend summers and all school holidays with my mother.

Dame Wonder said...

no fuckin way. men are retarded. (sorry blog guys) they can NOT be trusted to take care of your kids.

the hotair balloon is safer.

Tom said...

Bossy, how about summer camp? It's almost the same thing. Your lad need to know how to raid the girl's cabin!

Flip Flop Momma said...

Not the Bradys,
Holy crap I know exactly what u mean...

hot air balloons are way better..

I dont know....I am lost without a tot on my ass..

but they are all nuts!!

well his wife would be there, but Im not touching THAT one with a ten foot pole..haha

the boy is goin to summer camp in august for 7 days, but its like 2 hours away...i can deal with 2 hours, not 17...

Bee Repartee said...

wow. You are not alone.

I laugh at your jokes. You crack me up.

My family is so disjointed and freaking high school communication all over again. I feel like an orphan sometimes but that's how I roll...and it took me years to realize that it's okay.

I love to talk on the phone but I don't call people. Go figure.

Be who you are because those who love you, will love you anyway. :)

Jamie Dawn said...

You will always be close to your kids, either live close to them or talk to them often. I KNOW this!!

Get ready to do some talking at Blogstock. I will be there, and I hope you are still coming. I will talk to you, so you better be prepared to talk back.

Haphazardkat said...

Ask yourself if you were capable of leaving your parents for two weeks to stay with relatives out of state...then revisit your decision :)
Maybe compromise? Maybe say this year they can go for a week and if it goes well then can stay 2 weeks next year?

Thats all the mature advice I have.

I'm exhausted now. Must go pet my barbies.

Scarlet said...

I agree w/ you 100%! They're not old enough to be off by themselves in another state...and why would anyone ask that of you?? Stick to your guns! Follow your instincts! Don't let anyone change your mind!

Choppzs said...

Scarlet stole my thoughts exactly. Don't let anyone change your mind, especially if your gut is telling you something!! Mom's intuition is usually pretty close to dead on!

Slick said...

Yeah, let them leeches spread their wings, girl. What's wrong with you.

The day I have to tell my daughters that their bra is on backwards, is the day I beat some little punks ass.

The Kept Woman said...

If you aren't going to send your kids do you think they'd take mine in lieu of yours?

I mean, just wondering. Mostly I'm just wondering if they'd take Peanut...indefinitely.

Foster Communications said...

I'm still laughing about Blondie wearing her bra backwards!!!

pack of 2 said...

The bird eggs were probably eaten by blue jays. They ate the baby finch birds out of a nest at my bosses house, she saw it happen.

I don't know about the kid thing...I do like the balloon idea though:)

Cliff said...

So, does this mean I need to get a note pad and pen so you can write to us while you're here at blogstock?

doozie said...

I don't have time to read everyones advice so hope this is not redundant. If your hubbs bro is a respectable responsible person, LET THEM GO. Because frankly? You're creating a little bit of ambivalence here. It will be good for you to have a break and they will most likely have a blast. If they get homesick get them back early. IT'S TIME TO STOP BEING A WUSSY DAMMIT

Monogram Queen said...

Hmmm... I have no problem letting Maddie (age 3) go to the MIL's or SIL's but that's it. They are only an hour and a half away and the other three hours away.
I say do what you feel comfortable doing.