Wednesday, November 14, 2007

damn

I know I had made mention the previous post would be the last till Thursday, well, I need to vent so screw off. But this will be my last post of the week..


So I went to conferences Tuesday night. The Boy's teacher has told me that my son is her project for the year. Appears she thinks he is a troubled tot. I guess he lays his head on the desk and cries...

WTF?

And when she asks him why, he will tell her he is sad because his grandpa died.

WTF times two..

When she asks him when he died, he says three years ago..

WTF times 10.

Now MY grandpa died in July, which was not only totally devastating to me but also something I am still having issues getting over..

Now the boy was very close to him as well, and I know he was very sad when he died, but for him to cry in the middle of class because his 88 year old great grandfather passed away in July, well I find that troubling..

And if this boy is a project for anyone, its me.

What teacher tells a parent that their child is their project.

If she needs a project, this bitch will buy her a model fucking airplane.

And then she was having us make math goals for him, because frankly, the kid was born with my math gene, which is virtually non existent....she said what she said he wanted him to achieve and we were like..

yup..that sounds good..

and then she said..

well at least I know I want him to achieve these goals. anyway..

This whole conference with her I was thinking

WTF 99% of the time..

So to all u teachers, or former teachers....have u ever had a student you told the parents was your project?

I can see having a student whom you want to see excel and you kind of take them under your wing....but to tell the parents that their kid is "your project"..kinda pissed me the fuck off.

sorry for the profanity, but I am mad...so get over it...and thanks in advance.


Then on to Blondie's conference...Her teacher does not need or want a project, because she did not mention that to us..

Which means she still has both her eyes.

She said she was doing wonderfully academically, is a very nice child and she enjoys her very much.

She did tell us one worry we might have is the boys...I guess all the boys love my baby girl...

So I am sending her to an all girls school starting ASAP.


~

Oh and the boys teacher also said a student told the boy his mother was an alcoholic, and he started crying..

Which to me is totally funny, as I am not a drinker...I mean once in a while on the weekends I am doing my singing, I may have some brew, but not every time...

So which means whomever the kid that told him this, one of their parents is obviously an alcoholic as well, because they must see me up there..

But I don't drink but rarely...I mean I am at the bar a lot, but only for the singing...not for the boozing..

When I asked him about it, he denies anyone told him that..

And I find it funny out of all the things she could of told us, she had to make sure a student made fun of him because his mom was an alcoholic.




oh and Boo is convinced she left her flashlight in my tummy when she was in there..and wants me to get it out..

I am heading to an AA meeting now..


52 comments:

Rachel said...

Damn and double damn for you!
We sent a note with our pre=schooler her first day that says:

" We promise not to believe anything she tells us about you, if you promise not to believe what she tells you about us."
and
"the thoughts and opinions expressed by this child do not necessarily represent those of the parents"

Hope that gave you a laugh. I have no advice for you, but lots of sympathy.
Oh, our daughter is totally going to an a nunnery, I swear!!

Flip Flop Momma said...

Rachel,
ok...that was too funny...

I suppose it works for a pre schooler, but what about a 5th grader?..haha

Tom said...

I think I'd prefer "project" to just having the teacher ignoring him and treating him superficially.....I would ask her point blank what she meant by "project", it may just have been a poor choice of words on her part. As far as the tears and all....I wouldn't worry...when I was only a bit younger than him, my cousin and I would ring door bells and ask for food claiming we were orphans...As a outsider looking in, and reading about your family and the Bees, I think in the years to come you'll still be proud of all of them.

Katie said...

Really, your kids crack my shit right the hell up.

Fantastagirl said...

At least she cares about him....

(yeah, It still makes you go WTF?)

Flip Flop Momma said...

shit, i had a comment all made out and the damn thing wouldnt post..

sono*abitch.

Jamie Dawn said...

I must say I agree with you about the oddness of a teacher telling you your kid is "her project" for the year. This seems to imply that you are not doing a good job parenting him, and if she thinks that, she should have just come out and said it. Otherwise, it would have been best for her to say he needs some help dealing with his emotions over the death of his grandpa. I don't get the whole "project" thing.
Math sucks. I worked very hard teaching my kids math and then taking more hitonious math in college, and it sucked through and through the whole time. The math gene is not found in me... or you or your son, apparently. Life goes on...

Humincat said...

What was her purpose of telling you he was her project, other then to imply you suck? No wonder the boy cries in her class...anyways, after my sister died, I did a lot of crying at school, but mostly for attention....I justed wanted some friends.

Krystal said...

Okay...just had to laugh...

Flip Flop Momma said...

Jamie,
I was thinking the same thing...She may or may not be getting an angry email today...

Humincat,
I cant ebilve your sister died...how sad?..how old were u?

I think he is crying for the same reaosn..attention, only its back firing..

Krystal,
well was it a good laugh anyway?

Cliff said...

I think the teacher was just trying to show that she was concerned and will work extra hard on the little boy.
I think mostly not understanding what is being taught is the basis for these mini breakdowns.
Well that and having a mother that's an alcoholic.

Flip Flop Momma said...

Cliff,
maybe your right...on both counts...

Just A Girl said...

Wow, I'm copying Rachel's letter for Kelly's teachers next year...

What in the hell is going on with the boy?!?!?! I think someone might be a little attention starved. I would make shit up as a kid if I thought someone was ignoring me...or if I was bored...or if the sky was blue.

Good luck with that one.

1 plus twins said...

oh your poor little guy crying at school. well when my oldest was having some difficulties dealing with things i got him a notebook to write his thoughts and feelings down. (he doesnt' really open up that much) it really really helped him. he didn't have to talk to us about it and he could write whatever he wanted. however, i did read it daily to make sure all was ok. i know i probably shouldn't but he is only 10 and it is my job to make sure he is ok. don't worry about his teacher, just blow it off. your a good mom and will take care of whatever it is needs to be done, it is not her job to take care of him emotionally just academically. hang in there.

Flip Flop Momma said...

Just a girl,
I think every kid makes shit up to get attention at some point, Lord knows I did..I think he just needs a good ass whopping;)

1PT,
he has a notebook for such things, I see him write in it sometimes, I have never looked in it, and I am not sure where he even keeps it..but it obvoiusly isnt hleping..

damn f-ing kids..haha

Gette said...

Our school had a really nice bereavement group that Thing 2 chose to attend when iPastor's grandma died. They were pretty close. See what your school has, then the teacher will have less project time to worry about. That's wak.

Flip Flop Momma said...

Gette,
well my grandpa died 4 months ago...and the boy never mentions anything about it ever..so I am thinking he is using it as an excuse to get attention..for whaever reason..

He is messed up just like his momma;)

Haphazardkat said...

sounds like beginnings of hormone surges that he can't put a label on so he's tossing out dead grandpas and mommy alcoholics!!
LMAO at flashlight in your tummy....

by the way...I am putting my blog in private mode. If you wish to still view it, please drop me a line at katscratchings@yahoo.com and I'll add you :)

Bradley's Mom said...

Hi Flip:

So sorry that happened to you!

Having been a teacher, I agree with you that she never should have used the term "project" and spoken to you in that way.

What I hope she meant, was that she has observed some issues with your son, and that she plans to give him some extra attention to help him progress. That is what she should be doing! It's her job and her obligation.

I think her words were cold and rude, and you have the right to be angry. And you DON'T have to apologize for it!

Just let your little guy know that you are there for him, and will help him through any struggles, and he will do just fine.

Isn't parenting fun?

Fondly,
Linda

Flip Flop Momma said...

Kat,
shoot, yes I wanna be addeed..damn..

your hormone theroy is a good one, but this has been ongoing for years now...

Mom,
(hehe)

Thanks..I am glad you agree with me on the term project..What kills me is she makes it seem we dont give a hoot about him and like she is the only one who does..

I am half thinking of seeing if we can switch teachers for him..

It makes me feel shitty when the teacher thinks my son is her school project..she is lucky she was not sporting a black eye as I was leaving..

My boy is in therapy now, which I think he has needed for a few years now, so I am hoping this will cure him;)

thanks Linda;)

Chels-Puddle Jumper said...

"project" is a really shitty thing to say. Your son is not an object, he is a child. She needs to get that through her pretty little head. And if she's so worried about his mental health/dealing with grief, then she should refer him to the school counselor. As a teacher that's what I would do.

Bradley's Mom said...

I like when you call me Mom.....makes me feel all good inside!!

:)

just_tammy said...

What a B!!! I can't believe she had the nerve to say such things as 'project' and 'at least what I want'! So not professional. It's not too late to switch teachers or just deck her. Get the boy a math tutor if you think he needs extra help in that department. There should be an after school program.

Yeah, you are a raging lush thanks in part to that kid! Plus the boys after Blondie and the left behind flashlight...

Flip Flop Momma said...

Chels,
well the thing is I think he is using it as an excuse..And he has seen the councler, plus he goes to therapy..because well,he is troubeld..haha

mom,
aww..
;)

Tam,
I know...I should switch teachers, but my fear is he will go into a class where they are either way ahead of him, or way behind..and all teachers have different ways of teaching...and I dont wanna fuck him up any more..

I have always wondered what it would be like to be a raging lush, now I know I guess huh?

HAHA

patti_cake said...

Flip Flop what IS it with the damn teachers in Minnefreakinsota? You & Cheeky have had some bizarre ones. I think you should sit down with the boy and try to get to the bottom of things.
Oh and I would definitely be on a quest to find out which kid called me an alcoholic. And take issue with the parents.
Send Blondie to a convent - STAT ;)

Flip Flop Momma said...

Patti,
oh gosh, what issue is cheeky having?I better find out..

The boy denies a kid said that, he says his teacher is lying about that..

WTF?

Heidi Hyde said...

Holy Hell. Not good. I am a teacher- I would not say that. Tact? anywhere? I mean maybe she could have said,

"take him under my wing"
"make sure he gets my attention when he needs it"
"give him extra support when he needs it"

But- "make him my project"

What the hell? Is she Dr. Frankenstein or something? Bwahhahha.

-HH

The Egel Nest said...

Flip Flop -

I love that you call my mom...mom! :)

Seriously, teachers are human beings...and many human beings say really stupid things...

Don't let it get you down...just keep doing your best and everything will work out...

I am an optimist when it comes to stuff like that...

You always have my mom and I to lean on :)

Bradley
The Egel Nest

Flip Flop Momma said...

HH,
yes I could of thought of 100 things she cold of said instead..I mean seroiusly...damn..

Bradely,
glad I have a Jewish brother willing to share mom..

Shalom;)

I am sure the teacher meant well, its just, u call my kid a project and likely I will kick your ass..

damn...

Neurotic1 said...

Dang- maybe you need to give Butch something to cry about! Just kidding ;) Poor kid- tell him to poke the teachers eyeballs out!

What? You can't crap out the flashlight? Boo might get scared!

Slick said...

Hey girl....

Wipe that foam off your upper lip. ;)

I agree with you in that the teacher shouldn't tell any parent that their kid is the teacher's project. Largely inappropriate.

Sorry about the troubles and the sadness.....

Vani said...

hi momma! as a parent, its tough to hear things, true or made up about your own kid, specially to have them be their "project"! maybe if you'd lay off the booze and pay more attention to the boy..? ;)

Scarlet said...

A project? What kind of backwards-ass teacher says that about one of her students?? She definitely made the wrong career move, and the wrong choice in telling you what she told you. SHE'S probably the alcoholic and got confused when the kid was referring to her and not you. I'd make her my project and get her fired!

Flip Flop Momma said...

Slick,
it will all get better, afterI drink my 12 pack..haha

Vani,
so I shoudlnt drink to make the pain go away?..

hahahahahahaaha

Flip Flop Momma said...

Tiff,
yup....I was thinking the same thing...she has been teaching for 34 years she said...

I am thinking of calling the princapal and telling him of her project...

Granny said...

Teachers can be such idiots sometimes. They hear only the sound of their own voices.

I know you were joking about the rumor (AA, etc.) but be watchful. Those things can take on a life of their own.

flea said...

wow, i can't believe she said he was her "project", like does she think she's mother theresa or something? jebus, i would've freaked out on her...

Flip Flop Momma said...

Granny,
well I think it was just kids being mean, kinda like someone calling your mom fat or ugly...guess I would rather be called a drunk then fat or ugly;)

Flea,
no shit...

well she kinda got an earful from me..I have to becareful because I dont want her making his life hell.

Tee said...

Calling your child a "project" is not cool. She didn't pick her words real well :p

Flip Flop Momma said...

Tee,
yes, my thoughts exactly...

Choppzs said...

You should tell his teacher, your next project will be rearranging her face!

Jessica Foster said...

I'm pretty sure you need to punch your son's teacher in the throat!

What a condescending bitch. I'd never tell a parent their kid was my project. Ew. Gives education a bad name!

dakotablueeyes said...

omg I would have decked her ass

Scarlet said...

Did Prince kidnap you AGAIN?!! Damn!

MamaMichelsBabies said...

Ahh geez Flip, this is the first year for Meathead we didn't have that conference... usually we hear

"meathead is a nice kid, really he is but..." insert whatever your mind can come up with after the but.

I'd have been pissed too, in al lthe crap conferences we've had I've never been told that one of my kids is a project. It may have been true but it was never thrown at me like that.

And I'm diggin Rachels letter to the teacher, I may end up using that.

Michael Manning said...

He is probably bored to tears with this teacher!

Raggedy said...

Looking at the bright side. It is good to know that she cares about him and his feelings as well as his education.
The feelings will pass. The education will continue.
Have a wonderful day!
*^_^
(=':'=) huggles
(")_ (")Š from
the Cool Raggedy one

QZ~Ba Doozie said...

wow....sounds very suspiciously like that teacher is jealous cause you're hot and she's not.

oh, I have an interpretation of your personality based on your drink of choice:

You are a spelltard and laugh inappropriatly loud in the movies. Your family loves you very much but they are secretly socking away money for the day when you finally go off the deep end and stab a teacher. When you were in high school, all of the boys wanted to smell your socks. When you get down and depressed, you jump on the trampoline until you piss your pants. You will be the woman most likely to succeed at bringing back "Mall Bangs"

1 plus twins said...

am i going crazy or what. didn't you have another post up that i commented on earlier. what happened???

The Egel Nest said...

I miss your posts...new one please...

Thank you...

crap...I'm begging...

crap

lol

Bradley
The Egel Nest

Miss 1999 said...

I don't blame you for being pissed off! That's some shit for sure! I don't know what the hell is wrong with some teachers, sheesh!

Flip Flop Momma said...

sorry I didnt comment back..i am a lame ass..

and yes I had a post, but then decided to do another one, your not crazzy 1pt:)